So I had a baby a month ago. Almost exactly, in fact – Micah will be one month old tomorrow. We are well and truly in the middle of the newborn period.
I have two older boys as well, age 5 and 9 1/2. We homeschool. And I run my own business from home.
That sounds like a lot, doesn’t it? It certainly feels like it some days! And I knew it was going to be a huge adjustment having another baby, so I made some plans ahead of time for how to get through the newborn period without completely losing my mind.
How I’m surviving the newborn period as a homeschooling WAHM
- Babywearing. When the baby only wants Mum, but Mum needs to do something other than just hold the baby before she tears her hair out, babywearing is awesome. While babywearing my three boys, I’ve been able to play computer games, work on my website, wash dishes, put on a load of laundry (and hang it after), walk around the shops with a shopping trolley, use my sewing machine, cook dinner – and that’s just the beginning. I’ve heard that some anthropologists believe the baby sling was the first human invention, and it’s easy to see why. It’s useful not only during the newborn period, but for the months to come – as long as your back is strong enough to carry your child!
- My kids are, by and large, on school holidays. I told Caleb, my 9 year old, that when the baby came he’d get a break from his schoolwork. The newborn period is a time when pretty much everything else falls by the wayside, so I expected that we wouldn’t be up for checking his work and reminding him to do it every day. Instead, I’ve told Caleb that he can do his workbooks one day a week, and he can choose which day that is.
Chuckie, our five-year-old, is learning how to read and doing his first mathematics workbook. He’s still excited about these things, so he grabs his maths book whenever he feels like doing some work (about 2-3 times a week). A friend of mine, who has homeschooled her eight children, said that right from the start, she chose workbooks that her kids could do mostly on their own. This has proved to be a useful strategy for me too, even though I don’t have as many kids as she does!
- I let my clients know that I was going on maternity leave, and to expect I’d be out of action for at least a few weeks. I’m also not taking on any new clients at the moment, because it’s too much at this time. Right now, I need to focus on getting to know my baby and recovering from the pregnancy & birth. Everything else can wait.
- Online grocery shopping. Actually, I’ve been using this one since I was about 35 weeks pregnant. It’s so much easier to have a Coles delivery driver carry your heavy groceries into the house than having to do it yourself. Sure, it costs a bit more, but the extra I pay for the delivery is less money that I’m paying for chiropractic adjustments from overdoing it.
- Accept help from whoever offers it. I know – a lot of us have trouble accepting help, myself included. I hate being dependent on anyone. But you simply can’t do it all on your own, so whoever offers to babysit your older kids, bring you meals so you don’t have to cook, clean your house – let them.
- Disposable everything. I’m a bit embarrassed to admit this one, but as I’m writing this, we’re using disposable nappies and disposable plates in our house. It’s just easier at the moment. When things settle down a bit more, Micah will be back in the cloth nappies (love my Seedling, Baby Beehinds, and Cushie Tushies nappies!), and we’ll use our standard dishes again.
- Packaged food and take-away. Yeah, this one too. Today we had chicken nuggets for lunch. About half our meals at the moment are frozen packaged things that are easy to prepare – because inevitably, the baby is always hungry when Mum is ready to cook.
- Giving the older kids more responsibility. The 9 year old is getting really good at doing laundry, preparing food, and washing dishes. The 5 year old checks the letterbox every day, puts dishes away, and helps Dad empty the bins every week. Older kids can do a lot more around the house than most people give them credit for.
- Whenever I feel up to cooking, I make a double batch and freeze half. This gives us an extra meal we can warm up quickly if we’re having a crap day. Or, depending on the meal, it gives us leftovers that the big kids can grab for their own meals over the next few days.
- I only do one big thing a day. If I go out shopping, I ONLY go out shopping. If I do housework, I ONLY do housework. I don’t try to go to several different shopping centres on the same day and then do three loads of washing and wash dishes when I get home – that would result in certain disaster.
- Whenever I’m able to put the baby down, I have a list of priorities. The first thing on this list is go to the toilet. After this is eating, drinking, showering – and further down the list is any kind of housework. This ensures that I look after myself before I do anything else. Putting on my own oxygen mask first, so to speak.
Well. That was a bit longer list than I was anticipating writing, but I think you get the idea!
What other things would you add to this list, or do differently in the newborn period?